Why "Trust your thoughts" is terrible decision advice
Try the "The Multiverse Decision Framework" instead
"Trust your thoughts" is terrible decision advice.
Let me explain.
Your thoughts are based on your past experiences, your fears, and your conditioning.
It's not some magical oracle.
But here's the thing: most "decision frameworks" are just as bad.
They're either too complex or they ignore the real weight of what choosing actually means.
I was lying awake at 3 AM a few months ago, overthinking a career change.
Should I stay? Should I go? What if I'm making a mistake?
And that's when it hit me.
Every decision I make creates a different version of me.
Think about it.
Right now, there's a version of you that took that risk last year.
There's a version that stayed safe.
There's a version that moved to a different city, started that business, or had that difficult conversation.
All these versions exist because of the decisions they made.
So when I'm stuck on a choice, I ask myself:
"Which version of me do I want to become?"
Not what's safe. Not what others expect.
Which VERSION of me?
The one who took the leap? Or the one who played it safe?
The one who spoke up? Or the one who stayed quiet?
Big difference.
Because every decision shapes who you become.
That's the multiverse framework for me. It's where everything starts.
Instead of overthinking pros and cons, I think about identity.
“Who am I becoming with this choice?”
Just take a piece of paper and write the decision you are contemplating.
(e.g. moving countries, changing career, ordering Chicken Nuggets at 1 am)
Divide the rest of the paper into 2 (line in the middle)
On the left, write about the person you would become if you made that choice.
(How would you feel? What would the impact be of that? What would that say of you?)
Do the same on the right, if you decide on the other way.
You can do it as many times as you want, depending on the number of choices you have. (e.g. 3 job offers, this house vs that apartment, etc.)
And suddenly, decisions become easier.
Not because there's no risk, but because I'm clear on who I want to be.
What decision are you overthinking right now?
What version of you is it creating?